WHY I DECIDED NOT TO SMOKE.
69NON-SMOKING FAMILY; AS FAR AS I KNOW:
Years ago, when I was thirteen, I spent one of many weekends at my maternal grandmother's apartment in Brooklyn, NY. It was a sunny weekend day in 1975. I do not know the season, I cannot tell you which day it was, or what I had on, but I know it was the day I decided not to smoke cigarettes.
A few years before, my younger brother and I -- fueled by the no smoking campaign in our school -- in Queens, NY -- decided we would save our mother from dying from cancer by throwing out her cigarettes. We would have did the same thing to my father's tobacco to his pipe, but he never smoked his pipe. The pipe was a part of his dresser's decor. Actually, it looked nice.
One day my mother's older first cousin -- maternal and paternal. Two brothers married two sisters. -- came for a visit. She saw my brother and me take my mother's cigarettes -- when my mother was not looking -- and throw them down our building's incinerator shaft. Our cousin approached us -- as we completed our mission -- and told us we were wrong, and disrespectful. We informed her that we did not want our mother to die of cancer. She was stunned, a little more understanding, but still believed we crossed the line.
Once my brother and I returned to our apartment my cousin informed my mother of what we did, and why. We were scared. Cigarettes were cheaper in the '70s, but it still costed money, and my mother did not believe in wasting money. I thought to myself, We in trouble . Then my mother said,
"Y'all, should have told me this first. I don't really smoke anyway. I'll stop smoking. It's a waste of money." I do not remember my brother's reaction to this news -- and reprieve -- but I remember being so relieved. The thought of my mother possibly dying from cancer was not a good thought for me at all.
So, years later, on a sunny weekend day, while away from home I totally forgot I did not want my mother to smoke, because smoking was bad her health. I forgot that one -- myself -- might get cancer, and soon die. No, when I was approached to try to smoke by one of my maternal aunts -- yes I said aunt. Yes, she was horrible. -- and two of her friends. I said,
"okay", because I was thinking about the circle I could blow out.
You know, the circle most well practiced smokers make with each smoke blown out. To me the only cool part about smoking was when I watched people blow out the smoke and it would form circles. It was like watching a clown pull something from his mouth. Without getting cancer of course. Still, very entertaining -- well, to me.
To myself, I thought, if I cannot blow a circle I will not be a smoker . Always nice to stand for something or you fall for anything. Right?
One of the three delinquents passed me a lit cigarette, and I studied it briefly, and thought about how I would get that circle out and then look cool. I took a puff, I blew out, I coughed, then choked, there was no circle, I did not look cool, so I passed it along, and started to walk away. My aunt wanted me to stay and said,
"Girl, try again. It's okay. Everybody chokes at first."
"Na, that's okay. I did not blow a circle that's why I choked."
She and her friends started laughing so hard, and I began walking away again. When she -- my aunt -- called out again, she said,
"Girl, you crazy, that takes time."
I turned around, did not walk back towards them, but I called back and said,
"That's okay, I don't want to smoke."
I heard them still laughing, but they did not respond as I continued to walk away, hoping to find someone to hang out with who may be a smoker, but would not try to make me smoke as my own -- five years my senior -- aunt had tried.
See, I had no fear that my aunt would ever try to force me do anything against my will. She may suggest, but she would never force it on me. Though most people in my aunt's neighborhood was afraid of her, she was afraid of my mother, her oldest sibling. So, I was not afraid of her ....
So, I do not smoke today, because I could not blow out a circle with my smoke. Well, it may not be the best story to stop teens from smoking, but none of my younger siblings are smokers, and none of their children smoke. Especially the teenagers.
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Wow ! amazingly beautiful write /Hub/Story of a great family and Life /And a wonderful message ! i voted this up ,beautiful, awesome,useful,interesting ,and if they would have had a "damn good " button , you would have gotten it too ! :) thanks for the read!:)
Very nice story, enjoyed reading it. I wish everybody is like this and do their bit to stop people from smoking. Smoking is bad and when I see these awful pictures on the back of cigarette packets that warns people about danger of smoking it really freaks me out. Thank God I never smoked in my life. Thanks for the great hub.
Your stories are always so engaging. You have a way of bringing the reader into your world. Very nicely done
Motivating story, my mama would have slapped upside the head!!! :) voted up and awesome!!
I tried a couple around 13 they made me cough so hard. I have never tried another one, now that I'm the grand old age of 60 something I never will. Although my Mother has smoked lightly all her life and now she's 92, so you never know how cigarettes affect you.
I loved this insight and tale, and oh, how I can relate to when my daughter tried to get her dad to quit, and my granddaughter tried to get my son to quit!! I'm not a smoker, but each of them smoked (son, still) enough for all of us. Loved your tongue-in-cheek crack about standing up for something - but, hey, whatever works, works. Think it takes a brave young woman to walk away while others laugh at her! And thanks so much for the neat photos: a family! A real family (y'all look cool) for a real story!
U r really talented...
Thank you for your Hub, N.E. Wright. It was excellent. I started smoking when I was a teenager and continued for about the next twenty years. I must say I loved to smoke, it filled some kind of deep need for me. But I am glad to report that I quit a while ago and I know I'm not going back.
Nice hub.
Nice hub, i enjoyed while reading
Congratulations on quitting smoking! I too am smoke free now (5 years). I think everybody needs to find a reason to quit - whatever the reason may be - otherwise there is just no force strong enough to kick the habit. Not being able to blow smoke circles is as good a reason as any! Hey, where there's a will there's a way...!
So cool that you and your brother were so strong as kids. I used to throw away people's cigarettes too! None of my immediate family smoked and I hated it like you did.
I did lose my mom. She died at 43 years old from breast cancer. I had kind of a weird perspective for a kid. It made me angry to see people do things that harmed them, when my mom did everything possible to try to be healthy and still died of cancer.
PS...So impressed that your son reads at this level at 7! Wouldn't it be cool if there were Hub Pages for kids where they could write and upload pictures they created???
So cool that you and your brother were so strong as kids. I used to throw away people's cigarettes too! None of my immediate family smoked and I hated it like you did.
I did lose my mom. She died at 43 years old from breast cancer. I had kind of a weird perspective for a kid. It made me angry to see people do things that harmed them, when my mom did everything possible to try to be healthy and still died of cancer.
Great hub, well done you for not smoking! I haven't had one for 2 months now....
Smoking is a useless money wasting thing person can do. I never smoked. Great Hub!
I started smoking at ten! Can you believe that??? I finally quit this year. I lecture my children on the effects of smoking and really hope that they make the right decision. Thanks so much for sharing this funny story. I look forward to reading more of your hubs.
Great Hub !!! There is nothing "cool" about tar filled lungs
Great Hub !!! There is nothing "cool" about tar filled lungs
no smoking - healthy lung :)
happy easter N.E
cheers
Hurray for you! I wish I had had your willpower.
Great blog, an interesting read and very informative too.
I started smoking at the age of 14 due to peer pressure from friends, I did not like it but I continued to do it until I was 16. I guess I did it for the main reason like so many other young people do and that is to ''look cool'' in front of their friends. Anyway, when I was 16 I was with some friends and smoking, my dad walked past and saw me for the first time ever smoking a cigarette. He had no idea until then, nor did my mom. They were/are both strict roman catholics and very much against smoking. I was scared and worried that he would slap me, shout at me, ground me but he said calmy ''if you get cancer dont come crying to me'' That evening he took me to the local hospital and made me look through the door that led to the cancer ward and he said to me the same words he said earlier that day ''dont come crying to me if you get cancer'' and since that day I have never EVER smoked again and I never want to. Thanks to my dad :)
GOOD HUB/I have permanent lung damage from my stepfather's chain smoking (2nd hand smoke) and can't live a day without an inhaler and an anti-histamine. So refreshing to read a Hub about this!
Mark Twain said "Quitting smoking is easy, I've done it hundreds of times" I always thought that was funny and I have probably quite a hundred times myself. The hard think is not quitting but to stay quit. Right now it has been since early January that I smoked a cigarette. Off and on I smoked for more than 30 years. For many of those years I hated it and yet I did it anyway.
Best regards to you and thanks for "following" me here.
hi N.E I wish I was a non smoker I am really going to try to quit and encourage my husband to do so as well wish us luck !
You all are lovely! Let us remain smoke free! Thanks, Nikki D. Felder
Wow I like this hub.... Never knew that u tried before. I remember I attempted to yes me the health fanatic that was just like you begging and pleasing with my mom to stop smoking and anyone else I came into contact with that smoked. Well this one day at the age of 16 I attempted to only because all my peers did this and I didn't know what the big fuss was about it And I figured let me just try it just to see. So it did and the one puff was horrible and I told my peers I was with they were dumb for smoking and I was back to my self antismoking Christina again. It was dumb that I tried it but it was also great that I didn't continue with it
I think deep down you knew you wouldn't be able to blow a circle and looking for a good reason at the time not to keep smoking. I smoked for a long time and was very addicted. Quitting was the hardest thing I ever did. I'm glad to hear you stuck with your decision to not smoke. It takes courage to say no - especially to your aunt.
N.E.Wright,
Good that you did not do it.
I can't understand why people smoke in the first place. Not only does it cause harm to the smoker himself but it causes a graver danger to the health of non-smokers who happen to inhale the fumes.
Well done hub.
Smart move! I succumbed to the desire to be cool and smoked for decades before I was finally able to quit.
I'm happy you refused to bend to peer pressure.
Thanks for sharing this.
I stopped smoke for over 30 years ago and NOW I got the chronical sickness that smokers get. unfair! My doc told me that once you started to smoke you are in the risk of get that inflamation in your lungs.
wow....... i am happy for u.. do not smoke and your hub page encourage others not to smoke. we in Sri Lanaka no any person ask younger once to take cigarettes.its not our culture but still loads of school children taking. because its easily grab them... now under our presidents advise government have started a campaign calls to put pulls top to all these i.e. cigarette, drugs, alcohol.
wanted our younger one to see this kind of articles to learn.how bad it is..
You are very lucky that you resolved not to smoke and stuck to this.....great determination.Good luck.
I read your Hub.... And then I read of your loss... So I do not really know what I want to write in this comment. Life is always a surprise, many times a sad one. The only way we can do is continue to love the life. The choise not to smoke is a choise of love.
This is really sweet, and your son is adorable! My parents were both smokers, and said that even after they quit they'd dream of smoking randomly out of nowhere. Tough addiction. My dad did a few different drugs, but he said that smoking was easily the hardest habit to kick. Glad you choose no to. Thanks for the mail! (or attempt ;-})
Hi Wright,
You have done a great thing in your life that u stopped yr smoking.It is really giving happiness to the readers.
Very well written hub. I quit smoking when I was 25. I went cold turkey and never smoked again.
Hi N.E. Wright! Good story. Nicely written! -- Thanks
Smoking is the hardest thing to quit and should never be started. It not only causes cancer, but also high blood pressure. heart problems, and COPD. Thank you for not starting.
your health is your most important asset. I'm glad you didn't get hooked.
Well thank goodness for not being able to blow a circle in smoke. I thought that looked cool too, like the catterpillar in Alice in Wonderland. I never even tried it. I wanted to spend my money on clothes. I worked too hard as a busser in a restuarant. Neither of my parents smoked so I'm sure that helped. Great hub!
Great story. Anything that will stop people from smoking must be a good thing. I watched relations and friends die from Lung Cancer caused by smoking so I stopped the habit when I was about 50 years old. Good Hub and I hope it helps someone give up smoking :-)
I just loved that story. I must let my daoughters read it. Nice to see the retro pics of wen we were in high school.
N E Wright , Nice stories, I like your writng and I think you should continue with more , you have a way with words.
Hee hee.... I think that´s great!!!!
No circle...
No smoking.
Good for you.
I had experimented with cigarette-smoking at age 14 when I was visiting one of my aunts one summer in South Carolina. I had actually stolen one of her cigarettes while she was in another room. I hid in the bathroom, and took one puff. It was disgusting. The taste alone was the deal-breaker for me. It was the last puff I ever took. I tried to blow circles as well. It didn't work. Great Hub!
Enjoyed your hub...Trying to quit and this is a very motivational hub...
N.E.Wright,
I enjoyed your hub!
I am so pleased that you decided smoking was not for you.
I had an Uncle who I always admired. He was a kind man and always tastefully dressed like a gentlemen, was neat, strong yet well mannered, owned his own business and was a trustee at his church. One thing bothered me; He also always had a cigar. I asked him about it? He told me he only used fine tobacco? He said it wasn't the same but was better than smoking cigarettes? But when it was all said and done he died of cancer.
Smoking is not only unattractive it is quite unhealthy!
You made a very wise decision!
Blessings
When I was a teenager, I thought smoking looked "real cool," so I tried it and thought that I looked "real cool." When I say tried it, I would buy a pack of cigarettes and keep them for months, only pulling one out when I wanted to look "cool." As I got older I became more health conscious, and decided that smoking wasn't for me, and that it didn't make me look cool at all. My ex-husband use to say that a woman looked unattractive with a cigarette "gaped in her mouth," (his expression). Needless to say that was an additional deterrent. So I agree that smoking is not good for you, and is also unattractive.
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krazikat 10 months ago
I didn't walk away,and started smoking when I was 14. I no longer smoke, but it was years of trying to quit before I finally could do it. I love the creativity, honesty, and great story telling here. Well done!